You Had a Successful IVF — So Why Does Postpartum Feel Harder
“I always struggled with conceiving, but now that I have a baby, why am I not happy?”
For some couples, fertility treatments such as IVF treatments, artificial insemination, and many more, are a challenging part of the journey to become parents. Over the past ten years, the use of these assisted reproductive technologies has increased in Canada and worldwide. People often think that successfully conceiving after a series of expensive fertility treatments can feel like it should be a moment of pure joy - yet for some women, it brings unexpected psychological stress and emotional challenges.
Why Some IVF Moms Struggle Postpartum
The fertility journey itself for those who require reproductive support can come with feelings of depression, inadequacy, and low self-esteem. Even after a successful IVF pregnancy, those complex feelings may not just disappear. Also, some infertility treatments require surgery and hormone treatments - which bring their own set of symptoms that can affect mental health.
According to a cohort study of individuals who conceived without reproductive assistance versus individuals who conceived with reproductive assistance, women who underwent fertility treatment had a slightly higher risk of postpartum mental illness. There is also an increased risk for depressive and anxious symptoms in both men and women during the treatment process, which may continue into pregnancy.
When Joy Feels Complicated
Motherhood, in general, is a journey filled with highs and lows, and it’s natural to experience a wide range of postpartum emotions. Experts agree that, despite spending a lot of time preparing for the birth of their baby, many new mothers still feel overwhelmed and unprepared for the realities of caring for a little human being. This unpredictability can lead to significant stress and exhaustion, sometimes overshadowing moments of joy.
The assumption that mothers who have gone through fertility treatments should feel nothing but absolute joy is more harmful than helpful and might make you feel guilty for experiencing stress, sadness, or any kind of negative emotion. These emotions, if left unsupported or treated, can lead to Postpartum Depression (PPD) over time. Recognizing and addressing these feelings is essential for a healthy postpartum recovery and overall maternal well-being.
Seeking Support is a Sign of Strength
This journey is not something that you can accomplish alone. Especially when you are at a higher risk of getting Postpartum Depression, you can alleviate the risks by seeking help and support from therapists, postpartum mental health professionals, postpartum doulas, and support groups tailored specifically to IVF moms. Asking for support isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s a testament to your strength, resilience, and commitment to your well-being.
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